Familycourts.com

APRIL 2011
THE RETURN OF FAMILY COURTS.COM
William Kirkendale Sr.
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Welcome back Ladies and Gentlemen…After a period of deep reflection and soul searching My children and I are happy to bring FamilyCourts.com back on line. As many of you will remember I started this website 20 years ago to bring Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) to the light of day. To this end we were very successful. My two books PAS…The Silent Killer of Children and Stealing the Minds of our Children” have been read and shared by millions of parents who were faced with the alienation of their children as a result of going through a divorce in Family Court.

Back in the early nineties there were family courts and judges all across America that had no idea what parental alienation and PAS were. As a consequence there were literally millions of children who had to grow up without one of their parents because of judicial ignorance and indifference.

Who would have thought back then that a couple who were seeking an end to their marriage would wind up without having any kind of loving relationship with their children. I certainly never thought this was possible but after 20 years of having absolutely no relationship whatsoever with my only daughter of the marriage the sad fact is that this did happen to me and millions more like me. All these children now are all grown up and living with one of their parents and many times siblings and other close relatives missing from their life.

In far too many of these cases these children grew up without siblings, uncles, aunts, cousins and nieces and nephews. No there was nothing normal about these children’s childhoods. There was only unspoken pain and suffering. This is what the judicial ignorance and indifference at the time wrought for these children. Looking back on it what these courts and judges did was in many ways criminal. If you can find a greater type of court sponsored child abuse I don’t know what it is.

For me all that is water under the dam. I have been blessed with 8 other children and 8 new grandchildren. The fact that one of my children has missed out on all the joy and happiness of her father and these children and grandchildren should speak volumes why this kind of parental child abuse should never darken the door of our family courts again.

To keep this matter alive and in the public consciousness I will make myself available to reach out to those who still are victims of this kind of black eye on the family Court system. For a copy of my books merely send me and e-mail at info@familycourts.com. I will make sure you receive them as soon as possible.
NEW THREATS TO OUR FAMILIES

The new threats to our parents, families and children of divorce in our Family Courts today, about which I have just written a new book, are due to the same judicial ignorance, incompetence and indifference I experienced 20 years ago. These threats with a few new ones added are as follows;

1. CHILD & SPOUSAL SUPPORT PROBLEMS
There are now very serious problems with child support and spousal support …Outdated laws and theories that need to be brought into the 21st century…All one has to do is look at what a California family court recently did to my daughter. After 17 years of marriage and three kids later a Judge in the Orange County Family Court ruled that my daughter was entitled to NO child support and NO spousal support. Why? Because he thought she was nothing but a lazy bum who failed to go out and get a job while raising her three kids without any child or support or spousal support. Unbelievable but true. The man at the very least should be tarred and feathered and impeached right on the spot.

On the other side of the coin there is the case in Virginia of my son who is also raising and supporting three children who only gets $490 a month for child support while paying his ex wife $2,500 in spousal support. What kind of sense does that make?

2 OUTRAGEOUS LAWYER FEES.
Lawyer fees have gotten way out of hand….and lawyers are finding new ways to financially rape their clients. Endless and bogus court filings, Arranging phony court dates to drive up their fees when Judges never show up. Setting up needless and expensive depositions. Making too many unnecessary and frivolous telephone calls to clients. Asking clients to hire their sleazy private detective friends to spy on their spouses.

Yes you name it and these lawyer creeps are lining their greedy pockets with every trick they can find in the book. If you thought used car salesman were always raping their customers you ain’t seen nothing until you have to deal with one of these creepy divorce lawyers. They make Bernie Madoff look like Mother Theresa.

3. POOR JUDGES
Totally uneducated and unprofessional and unqualified Judges abound in the Family Courts today. This is because almost the entire cadre of Family Court Judges come from the Family Court lawyer ranks I just described for you. Sleazy, unprofessional and money grubbing misfits of society who spend their whole life making money off the pain and misery of others.
Disgusting but unfortunately very true.

4. NO AFFORDABLE APPEAL PROCESS. Today in family court You couldn't appeal a death sentence. For a family getting a raw deal they have no way of appealing their bad decisions. Unlike all other courts in the U.S. The family court appeal process is far beyond the financial reach and resources of over 95% of the litigants. The process is just too expensive and too cumbersome for the average person to avail themselves of. Thus bad decisions stay and harm people greatly.....sometimes for life.....And The damage this does to innocent children is immeasurable.

And speaking of innocent children here's another black eye for the family court system. The average divorce pleading today without appeal costs is between $20,000 and $50,000. Why? Because of sleazy lawyers, stupid judges and all the emotional carnage of divorce. You hate your spouse. They hate you and all these blood sucking parasites are right there to take advantage of your fragile emotional state. So who is the big loser here? Your kids are the big losers. The money you were saving for their college education is now gone....right smack into the pockets of your greedy lawyers. So who has been raped and plundered by the family court system? Your kids who will now have to load themselves up with student loan debt if they ever want to go to college. And appeal. Forget it. That will cost you another $50,000 that you will probably have to borrow.

You need to Wake up and smell the coffee. Once you're saddled with a bad decision in family court you will suffer from that decision forever. I did look up The definition of the word appeal. It is defined as follows: An urgent request for aid, support, justice, sympathy, fairness and/or mercy.....to a higher (and usually much wiser) authority. Unfortunately in family court this is impossible. People need to know and feel that they have received a fair and just hearing and decision in a court of law. Without this and without an affordable appeals process the court system completely collapses under the weight of it's own lack of providing justice and fairness.
This is exactly what has happened to the family court over the last 25 years....no justice for one.... no justice for anyone.

5. NO LAWYER CHECKS AND BALANCES
There are absolutely No lawyer checks and balances In the family court. The entire court process is in the hands of the divorce lawyers. They control everything. The problem is that they have no oversight , supervision or checks and balances to keep them on the straight and narrow......and above reproach at all times. This becomes important in family court because this particular court, after all, only deals with families and children. Families who are being put through a very trying and emotional time and children who are being uprooted and removed from their safe and secure life and environment. No more mommy and daddy as they once knew it. And no more husband and wife as couples once knew it. No the life of the once loving and happy family is now over and a new life is about to begin.

The problem is the family court and it's self appointed rulers.... The divorce attornies. What makes them such a bad influence on the court is the fact that they have no oversight and that they only get paid for stirring up trouble. This is because the entire divorce process was created and still operates under what is called the adversary system. Meaning that instead of trying to remain civil and work things out the divorce lawyer only gets paid if a war ensues. Remember the movie War of the Roses. Unfortunately a very accurate portrayal of life in the family divorce court today. Victory at any cost....and many times the cost is very high...especially for the children.

But who cares as they say? The lawyers who run the courts and pass the laws don't care. The Judges who sit in judgment of the people don't care. The warring parents don't care. And the society we live in doesn't care. The only people who care are the children. They care very much because their whole world is about to collapse on them. But no one listens or cares about the children. Have you ever heard the phrase....what's in the best interests of the children.
Well in family court I'm sad to say no one it seems wants to do what's in the best interest of the children. What actually happens most of the time is they do what's in the worst interest of the children.

My now 32 year old daughter is a good example of this. When she was 12 the family court we were in was instrumental in fostering and encouraging her emotional child abuse to the point where now 20 years later she has never recovered. Neither I nor anyone in my family has ever seen or spoken to her since in all that time. How's that for the best interest of the child? The fact remains my friends that unless you get rid of the adversary legal system in family court and take away the profit motive for divorce lawyers nothing will ever change. For the parents the carnage will continue and the children will continue to suffer. That's what the profit motive is all about. Win at all costs to keep the money rolling in. This is the mantra of our modern day family court system.

And finally there is the lawyer checks and balance issue in the family court system I spoke about. Under the present system there are no checks and balances for divorce lawyers. They are free to do whatever they want with absolutely no oversight or accountability whatsoever.
A number of years ago in my own divorce case my former wife hired a divorce lawyer who was a convicted felon out on bail awaiting sentencing. No one at the time knew about this and no one in the court or legal system was made aware of his situation. Therefore this lawyer merely went along his merry way involved in my divorce case to the detriment of my family until the day came when he was finally carted off to jail.

The California State Bar Association claimed total ignorance of the situation because they said because he had been convicted in Texas they would have no way of knowing he was a convicted felon practicing law illegally in California. Nice try but no cigar. State Bars have a duty and obligation to police their members but most of them don't even try. This is why you can have no confidence in the legal profession in the family court to be above board and free of any criminal offenses or activities. A very sad commentary on the legal profession.

NO RELIEF FROM JUDICIAL MISCONDUCT
Let’s face it my friends in family court a judges’ word is law. You can’t appeal their decisions and you can’t trust that he or she is properly educated and experienced in family law. Once again you are at the mercy of a system most people have no trust or confidence in….and this is especially true when it comes to it’s judges. Remember what I said before about where these judges come from. Almost exclusively from the ranks of divorce lawyers who we know make their livings off the pain and suffering of others. Not a very good reputation to bring to the bench,

Once again in my own case I had a judge that once said in one of his orders that quote “I really don’t have much experience and knowledge of family law” Why then was he involved on my case in family law court? This judge also never ever issued a final decision in my case. He rendered what he called an intended decision but here we are 20 years later and I have yet to receive a final decision from him. What is that all about? Judicial Misconduct maybe??
In any case he messed up my daughter and my family in ways no one ever thought of. You know I haven’t seen my daughter in 20 years so you be the judge if he engaged in judicial misconduct or not.
　
What most people don’t know is that in each state there is a “Judicial Council” and review board that is supposed to address family court litigants complaints and grievances about their judges. Unfortunately these judicial councils are a joke. They are the perfect example of what’s wrong with the system. Judges policing themselves is not a good option in such an important matter as keeping the family court system honest. Just like the lawyers these people need supervision and oversight also.

William Kirkendale Sr.
April 2011